tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21519732.post114074236768096692..comments2024-03-27T15:07:31.495-04:00Comments on <b><center>Unorthodox-Jew </center></b> <br><small>A Critical View of Orthodox Judaism</small>: Preventing Sexual Abuse - A Public Service Message Paul Mendlowitzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05887774341136059873noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21519732.post-1148595865051485462006-05-25T18:24:00.000-04:002006-05-25T18:24:00.000-04:00I don't know how to quote but this is to the perso...I don't know how to quote but this is to the person who said that it can't be true because kids would have come forward. You don't know the half of it. I'm in another country. We don't have the big frum community you have in NY but we have a community. We have masorti, haredi and hassidish communities. I'm 16. My father started to use me sexually when I was 10 and to allow other men to use me when I was 12. My family are shomrei mitzvot and hassidish. I don't know how much abuse there is out there I only know about my own. Why haven't <B>I</B> come forward? Because at first I was scared about what my father was doing to me. Then, when I told someone at cheder they told me it was lashon hara. When I told my father that if he didn't stop I would call the police he laughed in my face and told me that no one would believe me and that everyone would believe him. What's the final reason I put up with being used by these "men"? Because they have promised me that while I cooperate they won't touch my little brother and since I have no worthwhile life of my own now, his safety is all I care about. You should listen to us victims sometimes. It seems so simple to other people: you're being hurt - tell someone. Tell someone that a guy who is regularly called a tzaddik is raping you? They told me there would be cherem against me if I spoke to goyishe authorities. They tell me that using a boy is nothing because there is no question of virginity. They tell me that it's because I'm gay that they are able to do this - it's my fault. What should I do? If they tell that I'm gay I'll never have a shidduch. My zayde and bubbe will die of shame. I have no life outside my community - I couldn't live in the world out there. So, I hate myself for going along with this and I pray that HaShem will forgive me because he knows I do it to protect my brother. I can't even kill myself because I would be leaving him alone. So, to the person who said if it were true people would know - learn a shtickle torah. We are scared and frightened and we can't talk. Thank you UOJ for giving us a voice.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21519732.post-1140813468865406642006-02-24T15:37:00.000-05:002006-02-24T15:37:00.000-05:00Would someone be able to hang a boy over Niagara F...Would someone be able to hang a boy over Niagara Falls without many people seeing it?<BR/><BR/>Most of all do you think a camp director would allow such a person to stay in camp and come back year after year? That certainly doesn't make good business sense. <BR/>-------------------------------<BR/> You are so off base , you are pathetic.<BR/> Firstly niagra is so not the correct parralel.<BR/> Most abusers to thier thing in a hidden place, niagra is fully exposed . Number two, you are totally clueless to this sickness of pedophelia. Do some research before you embaress your self any further.<BR/> Thirdly,<BR/> the reason why kids dont come forward is because they were threatened by thier molesters.<BR/> Lastly, camps dont throw out those couselors for several reasons . One of the main reasons is because they are afraid of thier camp getting a bad name, which would mean the camp would have to close its doors.<BR/> Go do some home work before you open that big mouth of yours.<BR/> same reasons apply to schools, but mostly chadarimAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21519732.post-1140801513606338602006-02-24T12:18:00.000-05:002006-02-24T12:18:00.000-05:00Are you really interested in truth?Just because so...Are you really interested in truth?Just because someone makes an accusation, doesn't make it true. Do you think that a counselor actually had a Ferrari? Do you think that 100s of kids were molested without anyone coming forward. Would someone be able to hang a boy over Niagara Falls without many people seeing it?<BR/><BR/>Most of all do you think a camp director would allow such a person to stay in camp and come back year after year? That certainly doesn't make good business sense.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21519732.post-1140799876522100062006-02-24T11:51:00.000-05:002006-02-24T11:51:00.000-05:00The other blog is a microcosm of all that is Wrong...The other blog is a microcosm of all that is Wrong in the community. <BR/><BR/>I happen to know for a fact that Kolko molested 2 of my classmates.<BR/>Kolko has been protected at the expense to the safety of our children. <BR/><BR/>The other blog is idiotic and lacks any insight. Rabbi Schorr commenting on the UOJ blog without reviewing it's contents, is completely irresponsible .<BR/><BR/>I applaud UOJ and would faster give my hand to him drowning then any of these so called Rav’s that continue to enable Kolko and other molesters.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21519732.post-1140797900014488902006-02-24T11:18:00.000-05:002006-02-24T11:18:00.000-05:00Jeanette,How should UOJ go about watching his back...Jeanette,<BR/><BR/>How should UOJ go about watching his back. What precautions did you take? What are the legalities around blogging? Does one have to have a subpoena? I think UOJ should take this seriously.<BR/><BR/>concerned bystanderAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21519732.post-1140794976830046542006-02-24T10:29:00.000-05:002006-02-24T10:29:00.000-05:00Jeanette,Thanks for your kind words.Actually I'm a...Jeanette,<BR/><BR/>Thanks for your kind words.<BR/>Actually I'm a "mild mannered reporter" that had no intentions of becoming "Superman" until the hundreds and hundreds of gut wrenching e-mails and stories that were verified as absolute facts.<BR/><BR/>I am fearless; I am doing God's work, no wonder he needed Shabbos to rest!:)Paul Mendlowitzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05887774341136059873noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21519732.post-1140791452880002212006-02-24T09:30:00.000-05:002006-02-24T09:30:00.000-05:00NEWS FLASH!! NEWS FLASH!! NEWS FLASH!! NEWS FLAS...NEWS FLASH!! NEWS FLASH!! NEWS FLASH!! NEWS FLASH!! NEWS FLASH!! NEWS FLASH!! NEWS FLASH!! <BR/><BR/>We Be (of enduoj) is admitting he made a mistake calling UOJ a mechalel shabbos and says he begs uoj for mechilah. <BR/><BR/>He wrote it on the blog he and his clowns created called endouj.blogspot.com (he can't even spell his own name right the 'o' and the 'u' are reversed).Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21519732.post-1140784021258470222006-02-24T07:27:00.000-05:002006-02-24T07:27:00.000-05:00UOJ: You need to talk to the women, to the mothers...UOJ: You need to talk to the women, to the mothers. In addition to breaking the cycle, I had lots of work to do with the women who were battered. If you think boys are tough to mobilize, you should see how hard it is for their mothers, esp. if they, too are being abused.<BR/><BR/>Jewish Women International has a website that has many kbs devoted to what and how to do things when you are being abused. There's info on how to help friends, and seriously, someone needs to go to Hynes' office and talk to Ed Gluck.<BR/><BR/>The part that kills me is not Lanner (my neighbors, his victims the Hillers, pushed for decades and w/o Gary it wouldn't have been resolved), it's those 3 gang rapists from Bobov who never saw the inside of a jail cell. And BTW, complaints about Kolka go back a very long time.<BR/>Kol haKavod for your courage. My life (and all my kids' lives, incl. mobius') was threatened on AOL when I exposed this stuff in 95-97(?) I hope you are making sure you have proper protection and that someone is watching your back!<BR/><BR/>jeanetteAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21519732.post-1140744861577263602006-02-23T20:34:00.000-05:002006-02-23T20:34:00.000-05:00Thank you for this thoughtful post.Thank you for this thoughtful post.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com