FOR MEN ONLY! DON"T MISS IT! NO WOMEN!NO LASHON HARA! NO RECHILUS! JUST EMES! EMES! ONLY EMES! NOTHING ELSE WILL BE DISCUSSED BUT EMES! NO SEX ABUSE! NO CHILUL HASHEM! JUST EMES!DON"T MISS IT...
Chronicles Of Crisis By: Rachel Jewish Press (NY) Wednesday, July 26, 2006 http://www.jewishpress.com/page.do/18987/Chronicles_Of_Crisis.html
Readers Speak…
Dear Rachel,
Cheers for Anonymous’s personal report of permanent change in his own SSA (Chronicles June 16). Even though such changes are reported often in the media, and “Parents and Friends of Ex-gays and Gays” (PFOX) is a growing organization which demonstrates the changes among real people, many in the counseling professions and media continue to insist falsely – and contrary to the fundamental Jewish concept of teshuva – that such change cannot occur. That insistence results from the immense influence of homosexual activists within those groups.
It is important, however, to distinguish between same-sex attraction (which we can call SSA-1) and same-sex activity, SSA-2. Which of the two Anonymous was engaged in is unclear, especially with regard to his pedophilia. SSA-1 is relatively easy to overcome; after all, we all have forbidden sexual thoughts – most of them heterosexual – and they usually recede into insignificance when one is involved in stable, satisfying marriage. When it is SSA-2 that has been engaged in, however, change is harder, and under crisis, relapse – temporary or permanent – is more likely to occur.
If Anonymous had been involved with pedophiliac activities, I would insist on his having gone at least 10 years without them before I would allow him to, say, run a Boy Scout troop. Also: it may be more accurate to see SSA as a habit, for which one is responsible, rather than an illness, for which personal responsibility is lacking.
The fact that therapy/counseling can help people change SSA does not mean that they will, or that the change will be permanent. And without adequate marital satisfactions, the chance of relapse (especially with SSA-2) remains high, no matter how effective the therapy/counseling has seemed to be. That’s the lesson taught by the many Roman Catholic priests who were returned to full duty after therapy/counseling, only to repeat their pedophilic behavior.
Cheers again for Anonymous’s story, and thanks to The Jewish Press for publishing it.
Nathaniel S. Lehrman, M.D Former Clinical Director Kingsboro Psychiatric Center Former Assistant Clinical Prof. of Psychiatry, Albert Einstein and SUNY Downstate Colleges of Medicine; One time Chairman, Task Force on Religion and Mental Health, Commission on Synagogue Relations, New York Federation of Jewish Philanthropies
Reb Yissochar will give a separate shiur on Nair for women.
We can assume that uoj will be dismissed as a scm bag, not the Toireh way to deal with any problems. That's best left up to the gedoilim, the hanhola, gaiva of the plain.
It's 2006 - half of the shmucks that read the Hamodia are supported by their wives but still, women can't attend! Yungerleit (who don't work) yes, but ladies?? Shame on these fools...at least they could've charged a few bucks a head and gave it all to the war effort in Israel - it would have been worthwhile at least. What a waste; a joke!
Cool. The Agudah is being sued for employing a child molester in their summer camp, still employs Simcha Kaufman and Yisroel Belsky who covered up the crime, and their holding an emes conference. Aaron Twerski of "man of honor" fame is on their board, and Avi Shafran the distorter of emes is their PR guy.
The last people in the world that should be lecturing on emes are lawyers. Truth/emes does not exist in their vocabulary, it's winning! When asked R' Yaakov Weinberg z"l advised his students against going into the legal profession since emes is not taught in law school, but representing your client's best interests alone!
Yeah UOJ! What have you done for us lately? Huh? Ok so big deal you spend half of your day researching and trying to put an end to the pedophiles...so what? What do you want a medal? What have you done for me lately?
So what? JUST BECAUSE you were the ONLY JEW that EVER did anything to get rid of KOLKO and now he is gone....so BFD, what have you done for me lately?
So it was just genitals and not all the way with Kolko, big deal...What have you done for me lately?
ALL OF YOU NEGATIVE JEWS make me sick AND ASHAMED! This is the the real destruction of the Jews. The negative thinking and nay saying. This is what happened in Har Sanai with the Golden Calf!
What have you done for us lately Moshe? OK so we're not slaves any more, but that was a few weeks ago....what have you done for me lately?????
When Jews start really practicing the spirit of the Jewish law instead of the letter of the law we will finally be rewarded with Moshiach! Until then
YOu gotta give credit to the Agudah. They know how to turn out the crowds and create events. They should have satellite broadcasts of this historic "debate" with appropriate crowd control at Nassau Coliseum, Madison Square Garden, live cameras from Boston, Baltimore, the Koisel. Rav Shteinman could address the crowds. He alone speaks for klal Yisroel.
Had this been after tne nine days, they could have given a write off to Yeruchmiel Begun and his Boys for a special performance. Yeedle could co-star., and then, Yudi would accept his award.
What does the ad say, uoj? I can't tell. It's not translated.
Aynav b'roysho or anav b'risho? I guess we'd have to ask the chairman.
Thems that gots I's can see.
A shame they had to rent Viznitz, Gur might have been available. Camp Agudah was attacked! This means war. Our guns are our roshei yeshiva. You may fire when ready.
Dr. Lehrman's comment in the Jewish Press - and the JP gets credit for addressing the issue - is a vindication for David Mandel.
Mandel, you will recall, was villified for both appearing at Torah Temimah, and for what he said. Mandel said that with treatment, some sex offenders may return to work near children.
I think Mandel was right for appearing at Torah Temimah. He, and others like him, are comparable to doctors who simply need to go anywhere and everywhere to preach preventive medicine. Even to the gates of hell.
As for what he said, yes, I was surprised, and I disagree, but as you can see, he has support for his position. Dr. Lehrman says that after ten years of not acting on his urges, a pedophile can return to work near children.
Other professionals will tell you that pedophiles should never work near children. There is no cure for pedophilia, they are in need of lifetime treatment, and there is always a danger of regressing into past sexually abusive behaviour. That is why every state in this country - and now the federal government - has a public registry of convicted sex offenders. This is a recognition of the fact that pedophiles are never cured.
There is also an issue of parental authority, and a child's autonomy, that Dr. Lehrman does not address. Who decides whether the pedophile should return to work near children? The parent or the school? I say the parent. The parent has the absolute legal authority over the child's body; the yeshiva is delegated authority over the neshama by the parent. If a yeshiva wants to employ a previously active pedophile, then, the yeshiva should inform all the parents, and let them decide - one can imagine the loud chorus of no's.
As for the child's autonomy, between the ages of 13-17 for boys, and 12-17 for girls, both legally and halachically, the child can exercise some autonomy over the security of his or her body. So for those ages, the yeshiva that wants to employ a previously active pedophile, should, in theory, ask the children - there will then be a second loud chorus of no's.
It is a kal v'chamor. The professionals never refer to recovered alcoholics; they are always recoverING alcoholics. They are in need of lifetime therapy, in one form or another, whether it be self-help in terms of staying away from bars and liquor stores; support groups meeting in shul and church basements; or ongoing 12-point AA programs. Just as professionals will tell you that recovering alcoholics should never work in a bar, because the temptation is just too great, a pedophile - who can never be cured - should not work near children. It is a kal v'chamor because the potential for harm for a pedophile is so much greater than for the alcoholic. The pedophile will always hurt others. The alcoholic will always hurt himself, but only sometimes hurt others.
V'shmartem nafshosachem M'OD. Guard your lives EXCEEDINGLY. Kal v'chamor, again, guard your children's lives even more exceedingly. Listen up, Dr. Lehrman. If you want to hire a "recovered" pedophile to be your grandson's babysitter, g'zuntaheit, but that's not for me.
but, baltimore rabbi, rabbi frand will be representing nair. have no fear. he knows what to say. he'll do the RIGHT thing. He's not representing anyone but himself. He works for Toireh. He teaches Toireh. He's an independent thinker, answerable to none but the hanhola, and he's objective. He's on salary.
Then again, we should have a paddy wagon in front of the Agudah circus to take all the criminals into custody. Remember all the jokes about the "Million Man March" in Washington D.C., that all law enforcement had to do was match faces to mug shots and make mass arrests? There are so many Agudah activists that are already indicted or under investigation that this will be a chicken shoot.
Will you be there?
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FOR MEN ONLY! DON"T MISS IT!
ReplyDeleteNO WOMEN!NO LASHON HARA! NO RECHILUS! JUST EMES! EMES! ONLY EMES! NOTHING ELSE WILL BE DISCUSSED BUT EMES! NO SEX ABUSE! NO CHILUL HASHEM! JUST EMES!DON"T MISS IT...
OY, Emessss, Ki Atah.....Moychiach....
ReplyDeleteLearn how to be a crook and become chairman of a convention or guest of honor at a dinner.
ReplyDeleteI will only attend if Aaron Twerski is the featured speaker!
ReplyDeleteChronicles Of Crisis
ReplyDeleteBy: Rachel
Jewish Press (NY)
Wednesday, July 26, 2006
http://www.jewishpress.com/page.do/18987/Chronicles_Of_Crisis.html
Readers Speak…
Dear Rachel,
Cheers for Anonymous’s personal report of permanent change in his own
SSA (Chronicles June 16). Even though such changes are reported often in
the media, and “Parents and Friends of Ex-gays and Gays” (PFOX) is a
growing organization which demonstrates the changes among real people,
many in the counseling professions and media continue to insist falsely –
and contrary to the fundamental Jewish concept of teshuva – that such
change cannot occur. That insistence results from the immense influence
of homosexual activists within those groups.
It is important, however, to distinguish between same-sex attraction
(which we can call SSA-1) and same-sex activity, SSA-2. Which of the two
Anonymous was engaged in is unclear, especially with regard to his
pedophilia. SSA-1 is relatively easy to overcome; after all, we all have
forbidden sexual thoughts – most of them heterosexual – and they usually
recede into insignificance when one is involved in stable, satisfying
marriage. When it is SSA-2 that has been engaged in, however, change is
harder, and under crisis, relapse – temporary or permanent – is more
likely to occur.
If Anonymous had been involved with pedophiliac activities, I would
insist on his having gone at least 10 years without them before I would
allow him to, say, run a Boy Scout troop. Also: it may be more accurate
to see SSA as a habit, for which one is responsible, rather than an
illness, for which personal responsibility is lacking.
The fact that therapy/counseling can help people change SSA does not
mean that they will, or that the change will be permanent. And without
adequate marital satisfactions, the chance of relapse (especially with
SSA-2) remains high, no matter how effective the therapy/counseling has
seemed to be. That’s the lesson taught by the many Roman Catholic
priests who were returned to full duty after therapy/counseling, only to
repeat their pedophilic behavior.
Cheers again for Anonymous’s story, and thanks to The Jewish Press for
publishing it.
Nathaniel S. Lehrman, M.D
Former Clinical Director
Kingsboro Psychiatric Center
Former Assistant Clinical Prof. of Psychiatry,
Albert Einstein and SUNY Downstate Colleges of Medicine;
One time Chairman,
Task Force on Religion and Mental Health,
Commission on Synagogue Relations,
New York Federation of Jewish Philanthropies
Reb Yissochar will give a separate shiur on Nair for women.
ReplyDeleteWe can assume that uoj will be dismissed as a scm bag, not the Toireh way to deal with any problems. That's best left up to the gedoilim, the hanhola, gaiva of the plain.
It's 2006 - half of the shmucks that read the Hamodia are supported by their wives but still, women can't attend! Yungerleit (who don't work) yes, but ladies?? Shame on these fools...at least they could've charged a few bucks a head and gave it all to the war effort in Israel - it would have been worthwhile at least. What a waste; a joke!
ReplyDeleteCool. The Agudah is being sued for employing a child molester in their summer camp, still employs Simcha Kaufman and Yisroel Belsky who covered up the crime, and their holding an emes conference. Aaron Twerski of "man of honor" fame is on their board, and Avi Shafran the distorter of emes is their PR guy.
ReplyDeleteWe are truly living in very interesting times.
it makes you puke.
ReplyDeleteThe last people in the world that should be lecturing on emes are lawyers. Truth/emes does not exist in their vocabulary, it's winning!
ReplyDeleteWhen asked R' Yaakov Weinberg z"l advised his students against going into the legal profession since emes is not taught in law school, but representing your client's best interests alone!
Sad entertainment for the 9 days.
ReplyDelete"Vasisa Hayashor V'hatov" is the headline of this ad!
ReplyDeleteYashar & Tov!!!!!!
I'm impressed! Who the hell are they kidding??????
Yeah UOJ! What have you done for us lately? Huh? Ok so big deal you spend half of your day researching and trying to put an end to the pedophiles...so what? What do you want a medal? What have you done for me lately?
ReplyDeleteSo what? JUST BECAUSE you were the ONLY JEW that EVER did anything to get rid of KOLKO and now he is gone....so BFD, what have you done for me lately?
So it was just genitals and not all the way with Kolko, big deal...What have you done for me lately?
ALL OF YOU NEGATIVE JEWS make me sick AND ASHAMED! This is the the real destruction of the Jews. The negative thinking and nay saying. This is what happened in Har Sanai with the Golden Calf!
What have you done for us lately Moshe? OK so we're not slaves any more, but that was a few weeks ago....what have you done for me lately?????
When Jews start really practicing the spirit of the Jewish law instead of the letter of the law we will finally be rewarded with Moshiach! Until then
WHAT HAVE YOU DONE FOR ME LATELY?????
YOu gotta give credit to the Agudah. They know how to turn out the crowds and create events. They should have satellite broadcasts of this historic "debate" with appropriate crowd control at Nassau Coliseum, Madison Square Garden, live cameras from Boston, Baltimore, the Koisel. Rav Shteinman could address the crowds. He alone speaks for klal Yisroel.
ReplyDeleteHad this been after tne nine days, they could have given a write off to Yeruchmiel Begun and his Boys for a special performance. Yeedle could co-star., and then, Yudi would accept his award.
What does the ad say, uoj? I can't tell. It's not translated.
ReplyDeleteAynav b'roysho or anav b'risho? I guess we'd have to ask the chairman.
Thems that gots I's can see.
A shame they had to rent Viznitz, Gur might have been available. Camp Agudah was attacked! This means war. Our guns are our roshei yeshiva. You may fire when ready.
Fair is fair.
ReplyDeleteDr. Lehrman's comment in the Jewish Press - and the JP gets credit for addressing the issue - is a vindication for David Mandel.
Mandel, you will recall, was villified for both appearing at Torah Temimah, and for what he said. Mandel said that with treatment, some sex offenders may return to work near children.
I think Mandel was right for appearing at Torah Temimah. He, and others like him, are comparable to doctors who simply need to go anywhere and everywhere to preach preventive medicine. Even to the gates of hell.
As for what he said, yes, I was surprised, and I disagree, but as you can see, he has support for his position. Dr. Lehrman says that after ten years of not acting on his urges, a pedophile can return to work near children.
Other professionals will tell you that pedophiles should never work near children. There is no cure for pedophilia, they are in need of lifetime treatment, and there is always a danger of regressing into past sexually abusive behaviour. That is why every state in this country - and now the federal government - has a public registry of convicted sex offenders. This is a recognition of the fact that pedophiles are never cured.
There is also an issue of parental authority, and a child's autonomy, that Dr. Lehrman does not address. Who decides whether the pedophile should return to work near children? The parent or the school? I say the parent. The parent has the absolute legal authority over the child's body; the yeshiva is delegated authority over the neshama by the parent. If a yeshiva wants to employ a previously active pedophile, then, the yeshiva should inform all the parents, and let them decide - one can imagine the loud chorus of no's.
As for the child's autonomy, between the ages of 13-17 for boys, and 12-17 for girls, both legally and halachically, the child can exercise some autonomy over the security of his or her body. So for those ages, the yeshiva that wants to employ a previously active pedophile, should, in theory, ask the children - there will then be a second loud chorus of no's.
It is a kal v'chamor. The professionals never refer to recovered alcoholics; they are always recoverING alcoholics. They are in need of lifetime therapy, in one form or another, whether it be self-help in terms of staying away from bars and liquor stores; support groups meeting in shul and church basements; or ongoing 12-point AA programs. Just as professionals will tell you that recovering alcoholics should never work in a bar, because the temptation is just too great, a pedophile - who can never be cured - should not work near children. It is a kal v'chamor because the potential for harm for a pedophile is so much greater than for the alcoholic. The pedophile will always hurt others. The alcoholic will always hurt himself, but only sometimes hurt others.
V'shmartem nafshosachem M'OD. Guard your lives EXCEEDINGLY. Kal v'chamor, again, guard your children's lives even more exceedingly. Listen up, Dr. Lehrman. If you want to hire a "recovered" pedophile to be your grandson's babysitter, g'zuntaheit, but that's not for me.
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It's time for another riot in Boro Park!
ReplyDeleteThose police are anti-semites. Let's riot!
but, baltimore rabbi, rabbi frand will be representing nair. have no fear. he knows what to say. he'll do the RIGHT thing. He's not representing anyone but himself. He works for Toireh. He teaches Toireh. He's an independent thinker, answerable to none but the hanhola, and he's objective. He's on salary.
ReplyDeleteDamn it Arthur! Not again!
ReplyDeleteThen again, we should have a paddy wagon in front of the Agudah circus to take all the criminals into custody. Remember all the jokes about the "Million Man March" in Washington D.C., that all law enforcement had to do was match faces to mug shots and make mass arrests? There are so many Agudah activists that are already indicted or under investigation that this will be a chicken shoot.
Leib Pinter and friends, here we come.
Lawyers and Emes = Oxymoron
ReplyDeleteDear Sirs,
ReplyDeleteAgudah thanks you for the free publicity by advertising their event.
Many Thanks
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I love how they are always giving mussar to the "businessmen", when is the shiur for rabbis and communal leaders, aks suckoffs
ReplyDeleteWas this instead of the Lesserowits sendoff shindig?
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