In praising Haim Walder, Haredi media told his victims they don’t matter
Haim Walder’s death, revealed on Monday, was front-page news in many outlets that chronicle the Jewish world (The Times of Israel included). And of course, his death was reported in newspapers of the Haredi world, the world from which Walder hailed. Accounts appeared in the Haredi publications Kikar HaShabbat and Behadrei Haredim – and both were disgraceful.
Walder was one of the most powerful and trusted voices in the ultra-Orthodox world, largely because of his wildly popular “Kids Speak” series, which purportedly told the real stories and discussed the inner emotional lives of Orthodox children. He also ran the Center for Child and Family in Bnei Brak, had a weekly column in Yated Neeman, and hosted a radio talk show. The Israel National Council for the Child recognized his good work in 2003 by giving him its Magen HaYeled award.
The feel-good facade fell apart last month when Haaretz printed a well-sourced expose claiming Walder was, in fact, a serial sexual abuser. Once the article was published, the floodgates opened and more damning information came to light. Rabbi Shmuel Eliyahu, the chief rabbi of Safed, son of Israel’s former chief rabbi and a well-regarded scholar in his own right, revealed that he had heard testimony unrelated to the Haaretz article that attested to Walder’s guilt and that his actions had literally broken up families. Most recently, on December 26, Rabbi Eliyahu’s rabbinical court in Safed heard from 22 people who testified that Walder had committed sexual assault and sexual harassment against girls, boys and women.
When Walder was found dead in Petah Tikva, having died by suicide in a local cemetery, Kikar HaShabbat and Behadrei Haredim, the latter of which calls itself the largest ultra-Orthodox website in the world could have reported his death and described his fall from grace. But they didn’t. Or, they could have reported his death and said nothing further. But they didn’t. Or, they could have ignored the news altogether. They didn’t.
 |
| Screengrab from the Haredi ‘B’Hadrei Haredim’ site: The headline reads: ‘BD”E (Blessed is the Judge): Author Haim Walder, z”l (of blessed memory) passed away, age 54’. |
Instead, both sites reported the death of the Haim Walder we thought we knew in October: the upstanding defender of children, the winner of the Magen HaYeled prize, the author who sold untold thousands of books. They both repeatedly added z”l after his name, meaning “of blessed memory.” Kikar HaShabbat concluded its article with the phrase, “May his soul be bound in the bond of life,” while Behadrei Haredim concluded with “May his memory be a blessing.”
To be sure, Kikar HaShabbat mentioned — in paragraph nine out of 11 — that his radio show was suspended several weeks ago because of serious evidence that he behaved “inappropriately.” But even more space in that same paragraph is dedicated to saying that he “emphatically” denied the allegations, and quoting his statement saying he would spend the upcoming months in the struggle to defend his name. This meager allusion to the massive scandal that enveloped Walder was still far more than Behadrei Haredim wrote about it; the self-professed largest site in the Haredi world made no mention of the scandal at all.
Why does this matter?
It matters because Haim Walder’s many victims came largely from the Haredi world, and may well be among the readers of these two sites. What has it been like for someone sexually abused by Haim Walder to see him praised year after year? And worse: what is it like for someone sexually abused by Haim Walder to see him praised even after his predatory nature was revealed to the world? What message are these news outlets giving victims about who matters more? They choose to pour gasoline on a combustible wound that is already in flames.
It matters because everyone needs to acknowledge the criminal nature of sexual abuse, and to inform the public that sexual crimes will not be tolerated. Treating Haim Walder as a departed hero sends the explicit message that rape and sexual harassment can and will be ignored. Make no mistake: many of the readers of these sites know exactly who Haim Walder was. Kikar HaShabbat and Behadrei Haredim are telling them that his crimes are not, in fact, part of his legacy. When all is said and done, rape, sexual abuse, and sexual harassment are not particularly important.
It matters because we need to be able to speak frankly and openly and with appropriate language about sexual abuse. When the terms “sex” and “sexual abuse” are taboo, victims lack the vocabulary to describe what abusers have done to them. And when the topic of sexual abuse is at best couched in terms like “inappropriate behavior,” victims lack permission to discuss their experience at all.
It matters because honesty matters. It matters because journalism matters. It matters because a healthy society must allow the light of truth to shine upon it, revealing its flaws as well as its strengths. A community that refuses to acknowledge its own imperfection is edging toward implosion and collapse.
The offensive and unworthy reporting in Kikar HaShabbat and Behadrei Haredim is further evidence that the ultra-Orthodox world — and perhaps the Orthodox world in general — needs journalism that does more than reinforce the community’s existing view of itself as a wholly righteous society.
Regarding truth, self-criticism, and care for victims, Haredi sites and publications often fail miserably. They — and we — must do better.
On the advice of the great men of Israel, the wording of the tombstone sent by the family:
פ"נ
נפש נקי וצדיק
איש ירא אלוקים
הרב חיים אליעזר ולדר זצ"ל
בן הרב שלמה שיבדלחט"א
נלב"ע בדמי ימיו כ"ד טבת תשפ"ב
רבים השיב מעוון , חינך בדרך המסורה מפי מרנן ורבנן גדולי האומה
עסק וביצר חומות ההשקפה החינוך הטהור והדת
חסדיו וצדקותיו לנצח עומדים
ת.נ.צ.ב.ה
ע"פ צוואתו :
לשון הרע לא מדבר אלי
On the advice of the great men of Israel, the wording of the tombstone sent by the family:
Here Rests:
A clean and righteous mindA God-fearing man
Rabbi Chaim Eliezer Velder ztl
Son of Rabbi Shlomo Shivdalahta
Nalba in the days of his life 24 Tevet 5722
Many answered iniquity, educated in the dedicated way from the mouths of the nation's great rabbis
Dealt with and fortified the walls of view pure education and religion
His grace and righteousness stand forever
ת.נ.צ.ב.ה
According to his will:
Defamation does not speak to me Ordered today at Weiss Tombstones and Marble
6 comments:
Sexual abuse is real.
Edelstein and Lau do not exist!
The image of the community is all that matters. Just like the USSR published glowing reports about record harvests in the Ukraine even as the kulaks were starving by the hundreds of thousands, so does the Chareidi press work to turn Walder into a Gadol HaDor. Truth is irrelevant. The victims are a threat to be dealt with because the image of the community is all that matters.
https://dusiznies.blogspot.com/2021/12/the-rabbis-are-trying-to-rehabilitate.html
The paywalled article requested yesterday by "Cheapskate"
Alas, the final blow to make the victims & their advocates into non-persons.
Which "gedolim" approved that hideous, vomit inducing matzeiva nusach?
Isn’t suicide against Halacha?!
Don't lose focus of the REAL issues!
Outrage, boycott calls grow as food giant Osem announces price hikes
30 December 2021
Outrage & boycott calls mount, a day after Israeli food giant Osem announced raising prices.
In supermarkets, activists placed stickers on Osem products calling to boycott the brand, while lawmakers also called for an Osem embargo.
“We have to take more drastic steps to prevent rise of prices,” activist Alona Amram told Channel 13.
Osem announced Tues that starting February it'll raise prices 3% to 7%, owing to a price rise in basic ingredients.
Osem's of the largest producers of products in Israel, including pasta, ketchup, cereals, crackers & peanut snack Bamba.
Its hike has major impact on the staples of most Israelis & significantly adds to woes of Israelis already battling sky-high cost of living.
And analysts say there's fear many other producers will follow Osem’s lead, leading to price hikes across the economy. They note local taxes, gas & electricity prices are also due to rise in the next weeks.
Blue + White MK Michael Biton said consumers shouldn't purchase Osem.
“Israelis don't have to buy Osem,” said Knesset Economic Chairman Biton, lamenting enormous market share of Osem & calling the Israel Competition Authority to investigate.
Labor MK Ram Shefa, who led a protest vs a planned Osem price hike in 2018, called for a boycott, saying the public needs to be “brave & strong enough to buy other products. Then Osem will have a real problem,” he told Channel 13.
Finance Minister Avigdor Liberman appeared to give tacit approval for such a move, saying ultimately “the public establishes prices,” though he clarified he "doesn't support to boycott anyone.”
Liberman noted Osem's a private company owned by Swiss giant Nestle & said he's no policeman, but promised efforts to increase competition.
Liberman also addressed a request by dairy product manufacturers to raise prices under government price controls, ie milk & soft cheese, saying the government will examine it.
He noted he approved import of hard cheeses from overseas, breaking a monopoly.
Liberman said bringing down cost of living is the major challenge facing the government, which is also struggling to bring down spiraling property prices.
“There'll be a battle — it won’t be easy — on cost of living. With dairy products, we reached an absurd situation that in Israel they're 79% more expensive than Europe. A kilo yogurt costs NIS 17 in Israel but NIS 8.50 in Europe,” he said.
The government has significant reform plans to allow imports, including eggs & dairy from abroad. The move's meant to increase competition & make a wider range of products available.
A sign of Israeli challenges, Tel Aviv is ranked most expensive city in the world by Economist Intelligence, research division of venerable periodical The Economist.
Tel Aviv topped rankings due to strength of the shekel vs the dollar & price increases for transport & groceries. Paris & Singapore came in joint 2nd, followed by Zurich & Hong Kong. New York was 6th, Geneva 7th.
It’s been a decade since Israel saw widespread unrest over prices.
A price hike in cottage cheese, an Israeli staple, was the spark of the 2011 “tent revolution” which saw young Israelis furious at sharp rises in rents & cost of living erect shelters on upmarket Rothschild Blvd in the heart of Tel Aviv.
Thousands of protesters took to the streets across Israel, shouting slogans demanding social justice.
Post a Comment