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Saturday, June 03, 2006

A Call for Submissions – The Other Ba’al Tshuvah Stories

A Call for Submissions – The Other Ba’al Tshuvah Stories


Although this post will appear on Jewschool as well, I just wanted to give a personal note of thanks for this opportunity to UOJ. As some of you may know, I was a writer here before joining Jewschool, and it was here on UOJ that I first began speaking about my own earlier experience as a Jewish fundamentalist, and my problems with famous and powerful kiruv institutions, such as Ohr Somayach. This was a hard thing for me to do, in part because of my own lack of pride in many aspects of that experience. As I expected, I was attacked as crazy, a loser, and weak minded for listening to rabbis in the first place. This from Ultra-Orthodox Jews! But UOJ himself and the core writers of the early days of this blog were very supportive, and most surprising, quite understanding. And I discovered it wasn’t the end of the world to talk about what I thought was wrong in Ultra-Orthodox kiruv, or even what went wrong for me. In the end, I felt a lot stronger. This was made possible by UOJ. I had never spoken about such things publicly. I was finally facing my past as a Jewish fundamentalist.

All too often, the Orthodox community is uninterested in alleviating a frequently destructive situation for so many ba’alei tshuvahs. It is a cold numbers game, and control over as much of their lives as possible is considered ideal, even paramount. The secular Jewish community is all too frequently ignorant about what the problems are, and when they resist what is happening to their children and their friends, end up discussing “hashkafa” issues, which is right where the kiruv masters want the discussion.

What UOJ has proven with his stunning success is that the Orthodox community cannot be trusted to police itself properly, but enforcement must be imposed from outside. And although much of his readership are committed Ultra-Orthodox Jews, there are others, many who may be appropriate for this new project, or know others. ]-- DK

It was only a matter of time before current or former ba’alei tshuvahs banded together to oppose their radical policies and excesses. That time is now.

If the Ultra-Orthodox compilations and movies about Ba’alei Tshuvah are to be believed, most stories follow a similar arc. Secular Jew discovers Ultra-Orthodox Judaism. Rejects secular world in its entirety. Marries like-minded newly religious spouse. Lives very fulfilling and meaningful life, and achieves higher and higher spiritual levels.

What is not discussed is the socio-economic devastation to middle-class recruits, the lies, the discouragement of secular education, the dissatisfaction in performing low level jobs for those who listen, the discouragement of vocational ambition, the lack of intensive hard skills offered such as the Hebrew and Aramaic language, the preference given to those from wealthy families, the encouragement of stringency, the encouragement of neurotic and obsessive behavior, marriages arranged not on love but on a value system assimilated usually for only a couple of years, the push for isolation from friends and all but immediate family, and the eventual massive dropout rate of ba’a’lei tshuva.

They must have had a hard time finding anyone with such problems.

That’s why Failed Messiah (Shmarya Rosenberg) and David Kelsey are joining forces. We want to help! And since there are obviously very few such cases judging by all the success stories, we are teaming up together to find these very, very few and isolated cases of dissatisfaction, in the off-chance there are any.

And since the ultra-Orthodox world is so confident of the superior lifestyle they are advocating for secular Jews, we know they won’t mind us compiling a book that raises the difficult issues they must have forgotten to ask in their never ending releases about how much happier everyone is who joins the ranks of Jewish fundamentalism, and presents them to the secular Jewish community. In fact, we know the Ultra-Orthodox kiruv institutions will be thrilled to have Jews who experienced first-hand the joys of Ultra-Orthodox ba’al tshuvah living express how they think things should be different, and what went wrong. And what they think about the institutions and faculty they attended.

If you or anyone you know is a ba’al tshuvah or former ba’al tshuvah, we want to hear his/her story. The unedited version. The version not fit for the holy Artscroll. Essays needed as well! Specific topics preferred.

Please contact us. For more information, please go to http://www.kiruvstories.com/.

Or email us at- submissions@kiruvstories.com.

We need your help!

9 comments:

gross said...

David Kelsey,

Nice to hear from you! Your (and Shmarya's) project sounds like it will be a super success. I wish you lots of luck and if I encounter any of the disaffected "minority" I will be glad to direct them your way. Come back to visit once in a while.

Regards

Un-Orthodox Jew said...

David,

Persistence and the truth will get your messgage to thousands who have sufferred by the charlatans!

All the very best, come back as often as you like.

Better To Be Frum than Fry said...

There are no 'kiruv masters' except in your paranoid mind. And if the Orthodox world cannot police itself as you assert, then who should? You? What makes you qualified? I am a BT and no one promised me a rose garden, just offered me a chance to learn about the Abishter. I suggest you also learn more about Him too.

David Kelsey said...

Better to be frum,

Your reference to G-d as the Abishter suggests that you are a chassidic ball tshuvah, which is the perfect market we are looking for, Over the top frum. So if you know anyone with a different perspective than your own, please send them our way!!!

Gross, thanks for the words of encouragement! I was referring to you (and Boog)in the post, of course.

UOJ, thanks for everything!

You guys really helped me get the ball rolling.

Anonymous said...

Is anything being done to pressure the D.A. to change his ways and to begin to address the criminality in the frum community? Maybe we need to go not only to the press, but to the goyishe voters who will not appreciate this bias. I myself feel its not bad for the frum community would push its political weight around, if they did it for good, like say...to protect their children... but when they are using it to disgrace clal yisroel by protecting molestors like Mondrowitz, et.al., then maybe its time that the politics get balanced.

disaPointed said...

By posting this UOJ has shown his true colors and motivation.
UOJ: You are a scandal monger. I had hoped that your motivation in putting and end to the ongoing perversion (double-meaning intended)of da'as Torah was lshem shomayim. From this post it is clear that you are simply looking to share your sfekos in emunah, in general with others. How many souls will you turn away from yiddishkeit? Achar meah vesrim shonah what can a choteh hamachteh es harabim answer?

While I believe with emunah peshutah that the targets of your postings whom you are in the process of destroying deserve what they get, you chose to be the vehicle for that. [The One Above has many vehicles] If your kavonah had been lshem shomayim you could have been a Pinchas. Instead, your now evident rishus, specifically a desire to destroy and promote doubt--sofek (gematria Amalek has shown its ugly head.

Asher korcha baderech. Korcha is also an expression of cooling down the result of sfekos.

Timche es zecher Amalek!

Think about what you are doing. Examine your motivation. As long as you live, it is not too late to get back on track.

You may have been successful in getting others who refused to make a cheshbon hanefesh to have one made for them. You may have saved children from unspeakable tortue (I refer, not merely to the molestation but also to the years of pain and confusion that follow.)

Now you must make a cheshbon hanefesh beginning with examining your motivation. Think of the lives ruined and future generations destroyed by the sfekos that you are helping to sow(sp?).

Do you have enough courage to honestly respond to this posting? Or will you just lash out and shift the focus back to the evil deeds carried out by the molesters and those who protect them? Or will you simply delete my posting?

Serious Jew said...

UOJ,

I'm new to this blog and am unfamiliar with your views.

It seems like you bash every Rabbi. Is ther anyone you hold of or trust?

I'm not attacking just trying to learn

Anonymous said...

Hashem will delete our postings, have no fear.

He will lash evildoers and destroy Amalek. In the meantime, whatever UOJ's faults (including his deleting my last posting which suggested that many mental health professionals have mental problems of their own), you should daven for his neshoma, and ours, and yours.

Amen.

Hirshel Tzig said...

I doubt the sincerity of Shmarya, he seems to just be looking for dirt, if he doesn't find it he'll drop the whole project. David I do not know.

I think it's mighty ungrateful on their part, nobody out a gun to their collective heads.