Wednesday, September 18, 2019

A Time For Reflection & Introspection...

To My Friends and Readers:

As we are approaching the yimei hadin, I have decided that I will suspend writing on this Blog;  thanking HKBH for giving me the wisdom and opportunity to drum the horrible issue of abuse into the moral consciousness of the Jewish people, the failure of Jewish leadership to do anything about it, and worse, lied continuously about its existence and went out of its way to coverup these crimes, and seeing the Jewish community taking small steps to address this scourge. In that zechus I pray that my family, children and grandchildren and their children will merit a favorable gezeira from HKBH for the coming year and forever.

I will be taking time off to assess my role going forward how best to serve the Jewish community, and take a much needed break from being notified on a daily basis of the horrors that are going on in the Jewish community in front of our eyes.

I intend to travel more, spend more quality time with my family, my outstanding children and grandchildren, and disconnect for the most part from the Internet.

It has been 14 1/2 years since I went online --- March 5, 2005 --- and I must tell you that I am still affected by every heinous crime today, with the same horror, as I was when I began writing.

My hiatus, and my decision on how to best make a difference will probably be decided in about 60 - 90 days. I need some quality private time to gather my thoughts on my self-imposed communal obligations.

I will check my emails about once a week --- a_unorthodoxjew@yahoo.com

Wishing all members of the Jewish community and humankind my heartfelt good wishes, and pray that others will step in aggressively to make amends of a leadership that has run afoul of the laws of God and man.

With all of my heart and soul I urge you to keep up the good fight, for the right reasons!

Shana Tova u'Metuka

Paul Mendlowitz


Anonymous said...

Hashem bless you, and may you be successful in all you wish to become and do.

Hashem bless all your family ... Amen.

I have visited your blog many times, and thank you for opening eyes of even non-Jews like me... realize the sadness of our whole world in general..

May Hashem help each and all of us who seek to follow Him.. Amen and Amen.

Happy 5780..

a non Jew.

Garnel Ironheart said...


Anonymous said...

Three years ago Shmarya Rosenberg "sold" his blog to henchmen who basically killed it. At that time you said you did not know the reason he did so. The same question we can ask you now. We acknowledge you are busy with family, etc. (like all of us), but the Jewish nation, nay, the entire world, needs your blog: לא עליך המלאכה לגמור, ולא אתה בן חורין ליבטל ממנה!‎ 14 1/2 years is a lot of time — but, nevertheless, it is too little too: Jew-criminals have not changed, and the Orthodox society is no less corrupt. If you stop writing (or just reposting), or if your blog goes offline — that will be a tremendous loss for everyone upright and a sure victory for all criminals worldwide. And some hypocrites like Avital Chizhik-Goldschmidt, who once "eulogized" Shmarya, will write a tribute for you too. And what about us — your extended family? For the past decade we always counted on you, and you became a household name for everyone, our ol' beloved "Reb Paul." Your holy ancestor Rabbi Shraga Feivel Mendelowitz Z"L said quoting Jeremiah 20:9: "But what can I do? A fire is burning within me and hopefully within thousands of Jews like me." Paul, please do not let that fire be extinguished! Please keep your blog afloat! Otherwise, what will you tell Hashem not only this Rosh Hashana but after 120 years too — that you did not try enough, that you did not care enough?

UOJ has left the building said...

UOJ in the news


UOJ has left the building said...

ourteen years ago, an anonymous blogger calling himself Un-Orthodox Jew (UOJ) lit a fuse in the ultra-Orthodox Jewish world when he began posting sexual abuse allegations concerning a Brooklyn yeshiva teacher named Yehuda Kolko. As the blog's hit counter climbed into the hundreds of thousands and the comments piled up, it became clear to anyone reading that Kolko's alleged behavior spanned several decades and was not exactly a secret in his community. It had even been the subject of an inquiry by a religious court in the 1980s, a proceeding that reportedly was derailed by threats made by the head of the yeshiva where Kolko taught to the dozen or so people who had come forward to give testimony. (Among ultra-orthodox Jews, going to the police to "inform" (mesira) on another Jew was and largely remains taboo and can result in ostracization or worse.)

But until that day in 2005, nobody had ever discussed the details of the saga in a public forum.


UOJ has left the building said...

Torah Temimah strikes again


A rabbi once accused of sexually molesting a student in Brooklyn is now a principal at a New Jersey yeshiva — which touts his “wisdom and experience” on its website, The Post has learned.

Rabbi Joel Falk is named by a former Yeshiva Torah Temimah student in a new lawsuit, one of the first against a rabbi under New York’s Child Victims Act.

Baruch Sandhaus, now 52, claims Falk “would inappropriately touch” his penis in 1980, shortly after he started ninth grade at age 13, according to the lawsuit.

Falk, 74, who still lives in Brooklyn, now serves as the principal of Hebrew studies at Toras Zev, a Lakewood, N.J. yeshiva.

Sandhaus, a Florida businessman, said he is horrified that Falk is working with boys.

“It is devastating for me to hear that Falk is still working at a yeshiva. This man should not be around kids. I don’t want any children to suffer the way I did,” Sandhaus told The Post.

While in the ninth grade, Sandhaus confided in Falk that he had been abused by fellow Rabbi Joel Kolko in elementary school. Falk spent time counseling the troubled teen — and then abused him as well, he alleges.

Sandhaus complained at the time to the Midwood yeshiva, but a dean warned the family to keep quiet about the allegations or he “could not guarantee the safety” of the boy and his siblings, he contends.

The yeshiva kept Falk as a rabbi and principal until 1989. He was never criminally charged.’

Enlarge ImageRabbi Joel Falk
Rabbi Joel Falk
But it settled with two other former students who alleged abuse by Kolko, paying them a total $2.1 million in 2016, The Post reported. Sandhaus also names Kolko in his suit.

Reached at the Lakewood yeshiva, Falk refused to discuss the allegations, telling The Post, “I’m sorry, but I’m not going to take this call.”

Sandhaus filed suit in Brooklyn Supreme Court under the Child Victims Act, which opened a one-year window for people of any age to seek damages against their alleged abusers, no matter how long ago the abuse happened.

Survivors for Justice, an NYC-based advocacy group, sent a copy of the lawsuit to the Lakewood yeshiva — and urged it to take precautions.

“It would be unfortunate if Toras Zev joined a long line of ultra-Orthodox yeshivas covering up allegations of child sex abuse and protecting the reputations of child molesters in their employ,” said spokesman Ben Hirsch.

He called on the school to immediately notify parents of all current and past students during Falk’s employment — and to keep Falk away from children until the suit is resolved.

Rabbi Zev Eidelman, the school’s founder and chief, did not return emails and calls seeking comment.

Anonymous said...

UOJ, I cannot live without you. Please stay online...

David Framowitz said...

Shalom Chaver.

Thank you for all that you have done.

Gmar Chatima Tova.

Best regards,

David Framowitz

Microsoft Edge said...

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Anonymous said...

א גוטען מועד רב שרגא פייוול שליט"א! “I urge you to keep up the good fight,” you wrote. But how can we fight Evil without your comment platform to express our thoughts? You are literally the last of the Mohicans who has proudly spearheaded us, your צאן, toward the brighter Jewish future! Please keep posting at least every now and then!